It is important to understand that even if you believe that your dog is angelic in nature, it doesn't mean he will act the same way around you that he will in all circumstances. There is no perfectly well-behaved dog. Here are a few things to know when introducing your dog to a newcomer:
- Always keep him on a leash -- Frankie uses a prong collar. Though this contraption looks scary and inhumane, it is actually a very effective tool (when fitted the correct way) that is much safer and more comfortable than a choke chain.
- Never pet your dog when he is growling or seems unsure -- It is a common misconception that this will calm him down. In fact, you are confirming to him that his behavior is completely acceptable.
- Allow him to sniff the person's hand -- If your dog can recognize the scent from you having had contact with the person (a handshake maybe), then is he more apt to feel calmer since his owner has no qualms with the stranger.
- Meet on neutral ground -- When you are outside in the yard rather than in your house, your dog feels less obligated to protect you or your territory.
- If none of this works, walk away -- Sometimes your dog just won't get the hang of a new person right away. In this case, it's best to not stress him out and try another time.
I'd say these people did it right:
my neighbors dog really hates me. I have tried to be-friend it, but somehow every-time I pass by its so mean. what should i do?
ReplyDeleteIm a BIG Cesar Millan believer and what you say is very very true. Great info, my boxer bullmastif mix can get very Skittish around new people. I noticed its only when two things occur #1 the new person is lacking confidence in the situation or #2 I havent taken Butch for a walk. I Have read two of Millan's books and he talks about dogs being insecure and how long walks is a type of cure all in helping them release frustrated energy.
ReplyDeleteDogs are sooo freaking cool because they can actually read our energies and can also react to what we project at them. Sounds like Im missing some screws but its the truth! They really do! I can be on the other side of the room and tell Butch to sit with out any word, motion. It sounds crazy but its true! AWSOME Blog.!
I completely agree with you on animals feeding off of our energy. Children really scare Frankie for some reason, so I know his aggression has little to do with that "alpha male" trait. I mean the cat totally owns him. Frankie also never sleeps in my bed with me unless I'm sad or sick--then, he is stuck to my side. Dogs feed off of our feelings, and you will successfully train your dog if you use that tool. We never used treats as an incentive to train Frankie, so he's not obsessed with that sort of positive reinforcement. A pat on the head makes him the happiest dog in the world.
ReplyDeleteTo your question, I would say there is little to no chance in getting the dog to like you unless you discuss it with the owner. It sounds like he's outside a lot, so the yard he is in is "HIS" yard. When you get close to it, he feels like you're going to try to invade is territory. He also knows that he is trapped behind the fence, so that give him extra insecurity and edginess when you approach. I would try talking to the neighbor and perhaps meeting with him on his terms rather than yours.
ReplyDeleteI truly love your blog Em. Just thought I'd let ya know :) My neighbors have 2 dogs and one is quite defensive of her territory. While I do see your point about the use of treats as incentive, I don't think it is inherently bad to use them. Overuse of food rewards can be a problem though. With my dog we phase them out because who needs a fat greedy pup? Anyway, the point is that I occasionally give my neighbor dog treats at the fence so that she doesn't always associate me with intrusion into her territory. I have even been able to pet her from time to time if my dog is not around to stir the pot. I completely agree with Emily that talking to the owner will be key in making friends, but I think being calm and friendly in all interactions will go a long way in making the process easier once the owner is on board.
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